Sympathy and Condolence Gifts
A condolence gift or sympathy gift can be one of the hardest types of gifts to choose. Many times you don't know what to say or how to comfort someone, much less trying to express your thoughts and emotions with a gift. Whether it be the loss of someone close or dealing with an illness, sometimes small gestures or a gift can speak more than words.
A sympathy gift should express that you are thinking of them and not impose on their time of grief. Considerations should also be made for cultural differences. Below you will also find some tips on cultural condolences.
Remember that a gift from the heart is the best gift of all.
Tips for Giving Sympathy Flowers
Sending sympathy flowers is a an accepted custom in many traditions, unless the family has requested that memorial gifts be sent in lieu of flowers.
Meaning of Sympathy Flowers
Lilies are one of the most common funeral flowers and are a symbol of the innocence that has been restored to the soul of the departed. White stargazer lilies symbolize sympathy and any type of white lily expresses majesty and purity.
Carnations are a very popular flower used in sympathy arrangements, carnations come in a variety of colors that have different meanings. Light red carnations express admiration while a pink carnation represent remembrance.
Chrysanthemums, also known as mums, are used in funeral flower arrangements. Chrysanthemums are used in funeral arrangements in several different cultures especially in some European countries, Korea, and Japan.
Gladiolus are a classic flower that is included in funeral flower sprays. The gladiolus expresses remembrance, strength and moral integrity.
Roses are popular flowers used in several types of funeral arrangements. Roses come in a variety of colors that have different meanings. White roses express humility, innocence, and reverence; while red roses symbolize respect, courage and love; an peach roses express gratitude, appreciation, and sympathy.
Types of Sympathy Flower Arrangements
- Vase Arrangements are appropriate for delivery to the bereaved residence or place of employment.
- Funeral Flower Sprays are delivered to the funeral home. These types of arrangements may be ordered with a variety of flowers and themes, and are presented on an easel during the service.
- Green and Blooming Plants can be sent to the funeral home, the residence, or place of employment.
- Sympathy Gift Baskets containing an assortment of flowers, plants, kosher, gourmet or speciality foods should be delivered to the residence or place of employment. These types of baskets are not usually delivered to the funeral home.
- Unless the notice in the newspaper states that flowers are not to be sent, friends and relatives may consider it obligatory to send flowers.
- When calling the florist to send flowers to a funeral home, it is best to have the name and zipcode of the funeral home.
- When ordering flowers, ask the florist to write the formal form of your name along with your complete address on the enclosure card.
- Do not send fruit and gourmet food baskets to a funeral home, since most funeral homes cannot accept food.